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February 13 Internet RPG'sHi Everybody,
Today I have a little bit of a rant in store. I have this friend who I am really concerned about.
I think he has an addiction to an on-line role playing game. This game has taken over every
aspect of his life. His wife is also my friend and I would like to help but really do not know
how. His wife is very concerned. She started to suspect that he had a problem when
they were at an important social event and he asked the host if he could borrow their
computer to check the status of his "world" on-line. Then it was a lot of little things
he wanted to stop helping their child with homework {in the middle} to check this
fantasy world. She suspects he is getting up in the middle of the night to log-into this
world. He has also been telling lies about how he spends his time.
He is constantly asking her permission to play this game not that it matters
because he is already logged on. She told me that he is even playing out this fantasy
at his place of business. Not only is his personal life suffering but now she fears that he
is placing his work position in jeopardy. She has tried to discuss this problem with him
but he becomes sullen and defensive. In this game this man gets to be assertive
and ambitious. In his real life he is not this way in fact I have seen him run from the
first signs of confrontation. He has become forgetful at home. It seems to his wife that
his family is coming second.
The first thing I think she needs to say is "Get Over Yourself"
"You have real life problems and issues to deal with and if you can only function on-line
then we have a very serious problem "
"You are not an Emperor,Conquerer, or even a DragonSlayer" You Are A Flesh And Blood
Person"
I think this man is having an identity crisis. What he does not realize is that while he may
find glory and become the "Grand Master" of the on-line world, his real life world is going
to end up in ruins. Maybe they can set some guidelines. When I suggested this she felt
like he would take a sullen childish approach by saying something like "fine I won't ever
touch the computer again" She said she knows he needs an outlet like anyone else but
this has become more than that it has become an obsession.
Well I am finished ranting. Anyone with any advice I can pass on, please share.
Have A Beautiful Day,
Heather
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